Recommended Reading

This is only a small sampling of available books. We find these books to be either theoretically sound, or practically useful, or both.


Hot Monogamy by Patricia Love, M.D. & Jo Robinson.

This is an excellent primer on understanding the complexity of monogamous sexual relationships. Dr. Love provides methods for identifying specific areas of conflict as well as techniques for improving satisfaction.

Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans.

This book offers a realistic and positive perspective on navigating the terrain of sexuality and motherhood. It provides suggestions and encouragement while maintaining a sense of humor.

You Can Be Your Own Sex Therapist
by Carole Altman, Ph.D.

Based on research by Masters and Johnson, Altman presents a step-by-step guide for approaching the common sexual issues that men and women encounter. An entire chapter is devoted to case examples, while another chapter, "Forbidden Sex", normalizes the fear and shame that can come from various sexual desires.

Soul of Sex by Thomas Moore.

Presents a deep and useful understanding of how sex points to the most profound mysteries of life and is an experience of the soul.

101 Grrreat Quickies & Nights of Grrreat Sex
by Laura Corn.

Playful possibilities for sexual adventures to ignite erotic possibilities.

The Illustrated Manual of Sex Therapy (second edition)
by Helen Singer Kaplan.

A practical guide for understanding and overcoming various common sexual problems such as inhibition, impotence, retarded or premature ejaculation, female orgastic dysfunction and vaginismus.

Kaplan was a pioneer in the field of sex therapy, looking at both the emotional and physical issues involved in sexual problems. Her approach is compassionate, professional and direct.

The book provides techniques and methods for approaching these difficult, but resolvable issues.

Women's Interest

Women on Top by Nancy Friday.

The author has collected and studied a multitude of women's sexual fantasies and presents them in this book. It almost reads like erotica, with a wide range of fantasy images. She normalizes the use of fantasy to induce states of arousal in women- a helpful technique for women with low sexual desire.

The Redemption of the Feminine Erotic Soul
by Rachel Hillel, Ph.D.

Hillel is a Jungian Analyst interested in the archetype of the Feminine, the Soul, and women's sexuality. She considers the role of culture in a woman's relationship to herself as a sexual being, and the emergent interest in the Goddess today. Dreams are frequently used to illustrate themes.

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by John M. Gottman, Ph.D.

Many people want to know the secret for making a marriage work. Gottman has spent years doing research on what makes a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. This book is the culmination of his findings. It is filled with exercises designed to guide couples in developing the traits that exist in successful marriages. Topics: increasing admiration of each other, working together instead of against each other, problem solving, and creating a sense of shared meaning. Learn more at

Tell Me No Lies
by Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Pete Pearson Ph.D.

Drs. Bader and Pearson are a married couple who are experts on couple's relationships. This book is a useful tool in learning how to talk to each other in an honest, open dialogue. They are nationally recognized experts in the field. Learn more at

Can Love Last? The Fate of Romance Over Time
by Stephen A. Mitchell.

Stephen Mitchell explores the deep philosophical roots of why romance becomes increasingly "dangerous" over time. He shows how love can endure through awareness of our unconscious processes. "Mitchell shows the many ways in which sex in stable relationships is far more emotionally risky (and potentially exciting) than throw away trysts."

Passionate Marriage by David Snarch

This book explores how couples can become more passionate and erotic by working to become more "differentiated." Many couples find this book helpful for understanding and practicing key principles for sustaining marriage as separate individuals.

Emotional Fitness for Couples (10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship) by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.

Good, quick suggestions for activities that can help structure regular relationship practice.

Women's Interest

The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine
by Nancy Qualls-Corbett, Ph.D.

While these two words "sacred" and "prostitute" may seem contradictory, there was a time when sexuality and spirituality were inseparable. This book is written from the perspective of Jungian Psychology and it explores the role of the archetype of the Sacred Prostitute as it lives in both men and women.

Aphrodites's Daughter by Jalaja Bonheim.

Easy to read, inspiring and moving. Bonheim has interviewed women from a variety of spiritual traditions and background and asked them to tell the story of their sexuality. There are stories of pleasure, shame, healing, repression, awakening… ©2006-2018 Jim Matto Shepard & Felicia Matto Shepard. All rights reserved.